When my second sister got married, (shoutout @ IG: @mrslianalrp) I thought "Finally, I get all of mummy's delectable sweets to myself." In Trinbago we like to say "yuh cya be late twice," but was I late in realizing that not only will my wife also get sweets, but she would also be higher in the pecking order than me. This is commonly done in such new relationships as a form of "Dular" that helps to build the bond between daughter and mother-in-law.
It was a fine Covid-19 weekday evening. I got home after a busy day attending to patients in the health centre, but my new Dulahin was still on leave. Mom was making dad's favorite "mixed sponge and fruit cake." (For this recipe please let us know in the comments below and we will gladly share with you.) It was at the stage just finished being mixed and this is when I would usually get the basin and beaters to lick the batter. You can judge all you like, but if your mom's hand was as good as mine you'd do it too! Lo and behold this darned wife of mine got the basin and beater handed to her. I did not sign up for this. This was nowhere in the vows. Though she was kind enough to share with me, this shall forever stain my memory (Just kidding 😋)
Boy do i love my mom's Fudge. The best part is eating the cooled melted caramel form having just come out of the pot... mouth watering! Sharing is a big part of the bond of marriage. It represents one way to show growth and sacrifice in the relationship. Some of the other things I have learnt to share with my wife (or currently in the process of learning) are:
It was a fine Covid-19 weekday evening. I got home after a busy day attending to patients in the health centre, but my new Dulahin was still on leave. Mom was making dad's favorite "mixed sponge and fruit cake." (For this recipe please let us know in the comments below and we will gladly share with you.) It was at the stage just finished being mixed and this is when I would usually get the basin and beaters to lick the batter. You can judge all you like, but if your mom's hand was as good as mine you'd do it too! Lo and behold this darned wife of mine got the basin and beater handed to her. I did not sign up for this. This was nowhere in the vows. Though she was kind enough to share with me, this shall forever stain my memory (Just kidding 😋)
Boy do i love my mom's Fudge. The best part is eating the cooled melted caramel form having just come out of the pot... mouth watering! Sharing is a big part of the bond of marriage. It represents one way to show growth and sacrifice in the relationship. Some of the other things I have learnt to share with my wife (or currently in the process of learning) are:
- Bed space: get the King- the bed is NEVER big enough.
- Shower: it's true that some mammals are more warm blooded than others. My wife loves the water hot like a sauna so I try to use it before her when it is cooler. (Hey guys what's up with women and steaming hot showers???)
- A trini favourite, the Hammock: get accustomed to sharing now because even if you get her a hammock of her own, she will without doubt want to be in the one that you are in! (Don't tell her I said that.)
Looks so good. Please share the recipe!
ReplyDeleteThe recipe is in the oven, as the saying goes lol
DeleteOne of the many Joys of a newly wed. I can relate to having to share everything even the last piece of crumb left behind from the cake. Your stories are true to the heart! Hope you have more in store.keep the love flowing through your laptop screen
ReplyDeleteLol at having to share every last crumb. We do the exact same. Are we related?
DeleteLol I doubt
DeleteI can attest to that my wife loves hot showers as well
ReplyDeleteThe cake looks delicious. And the fudge too. I have a sweet tooth and now I'm craving fudge. You guys should open a sweet shop or something. I'd be the first to patronize!
ReplyDeleteI can totally relate! We upgraded from a Queen size bed to King yet my wife still finds the perfect spot in the middle of the bed that somehow crowds my space
ReplyDeleteYou should try the Hug and Roll move from Ross from friends. That works for me. Though I hope my wife never sees this comment
ReplyDeleteLolll
DeleteI think Caribbean people know better. Licking the batter from the spoon or bowl or beaters or knife or spoon or fork; it doesn't matter what utensil but it is a must!
ReplyDeleteYess. Women do love hot showers. I'm not sure maybe they are cold blooded
ReplyDeleteThese trini snacks look so delicious! I must visit once Covid-19 is under control
ReplyDeleteCome get virtual hugss
DeleteMommy's hand looks greatt
ReplyDeleteFor me it's round two million and eleventyone in life. And the wife still #winning
ReplyDeleteI love love hot hot showers too. And yes wives to own 99.99% of everything while the husbands own 0.000001% as your space is also our space too.��
ReplyDeleteLol tell them Dinah. Girl power!
DeleteWell....well. I'm wondering if we both got the same mo . My mom makes the best fruit cake, besss fudge and even mango jam! When myself and siblings were younger she would make awesome ice cream too.
ReplyDeleteAnd yes we do like hot showers its relaxing .
Can I send my kids to your house. they would love all those delicious treats
ReplyDeletePlease share the recipe for fudge!!!!
ReplyDeleteI want the recipe for Fudge! A video might be really nice. I know the technique is key.
ReplyDeleteHot showers are ok but with the heat these days..I avoid hot showers b/c by the time you finish shower and change you sweaty again. So for now it's really cold showers! Hahaaaa
ReplyDeleteLol we can relate I feel like I know you thank you
Delete